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god in flames from anger

Unless you were one of the fortunate ones who happened to have a Sunday school teacher who wasn’t afraid to be bluntly blasphemous you were stuffed with the notion that God is a truly nice guy, watching after us from above with a loving tender, ready to forgive every sin.

Bible itself, however, says nothing can be further from the truth. In fact, it seems some of the most destructive emotions, which most modern and cultured people find so appalling, are to be found in God. It turns out God was a raging, jealous, vain, cruel, and pompous ass.

Here‘s what the bible says about God’s mental make-up:

1. Trigger happy with sharp weapons, smoking nostrils and in love with pyrotechnics:

“Fire goes out from his presence to consume his enemies on every side.” (PS 97:3) – Quite a flamboyant personality, eh?

“The earth trembled and quaked, and the foundations of the mountains shook; they trembled because he was angry. Smoke rose from his nostrils; consuming fire came from his mouth, burning coals blazed out of it. (PS 18:7-8)  – You sure we’re really talking about “God” here? [click to continue…]

hpa axis brain bw

Our body is a system in which all of the components are designed to work smoothly and in perfect balance with each other.  The same way that one broken part can bring a car to a screeching halt, so can our bodily organs.

The last article was a short introduction to our HPA Axis.  Traditionally viewed as the body’s “stress system”, it controls levels of cortisol and other important stress related hormones.  But often, it too can brake.

Like a leaky Fukushima reactor, a disfunctional HPA Axis can slowly intoxicate our system for a period of time, stressing the entire body and mind.  This extended overdrive in the HPA Axis will make you feel amped-up, irritable and cause you to be prone to snapping from a slightest irritant.  What I’d like to share with you now are some effective measures to reset your HPA Axis activity and regain your sense of balance. [click to continue…]

reset HPA axis

If you are anywhere like me, you must have days that feel like the software in your mind is glitching so bad you just want to stick that head in the freezer or drink yourself to death just to enjoy a moment of peace. It can seem like no matter how hard you try to control yourself you keep over-reacting, and bursting out over the most trivial things.

Don’t know about you but I have days when even my cat’s purr irritates the hell out of me.  Its as if someone starts a Harley Davidson in the middle of Yosemite Park.

When irritation strikes, what may seem, out of nowhere, I listen to it because I know this is the phase when my emotional intelligence just took a shot of vodka.  Being an interesting phenomenon, it made me dig for answers. I wanted to know the bio-mechanics behind irritability so that I can “fix it”.

What I found out was that irritability is closely related to anxiety, and it all works through our body’s, so called, HPA Axis. The cool part about is that once we have the mechanics behind the HPA Axis function we can control it better.

Now, I am not a big fan of brain hacks. Mainly because trying to trick the brain is like trying to fix a radio when it’s the signal quality that is the real culprit behind the poor sound quality. However, I feel our HPA axis is a bit different in this respect. There are times when our brain simply needs a good reboot in order to stabilize our mind and spirit.

By learning to work with the biochemistry of our HPA axis we can learn to slow down our knee jerk reactions and bring ourselves back into a more relaxed state of mind. This simplified “How” is what I’d like to share with you here. [click to continue…]

rules for fighting fair

Sun Tzu, one of the greatest Chinese generals, strategists and philosophers believed that the supreme art of war was to subdue the enemy without even fighting. He said “To fight and conquer in all our battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.” Most of us would be [continue reading...]

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Everybody likes to argue. People that don’t like to argue are either dead or in comma. The only question is what kind of fights do you like? There are people who like to fight and are willing to employ their entire God given arsenal of wits in order to arrive at their own version of [continue reading...]

Photo: Richard Upsur

Loving an angry person can be a daily challenge. Even worse, confronting angry people often creates an atmosphere that is hostile and distancing or punishing with aggression or cold hostility. However, you might have reached a breaking point and are ready to do a cost-benefit analysis of the consequences of your changing the rules and [continue reading...]


It’s 6:30 pm.  You’re finally home. Kenny G is “in da house” and your nose is in the fridge sniffing for something to munch before your lover boy is home from work. You kick back on the couch sifting through your mail when you hear those anticipated foot steps.  Only this time they sound more [continue reading...]

responding to verbal abuse 270

Sometimes good insights come when you least expect them and from someone who’s cutting your hair.  Anna is a lovely, collected lady.  Even though she’s good at it, she hates fighting. Her husband is the nicest guy to others, yet he is an Olympian in verbal abuse  to her.  He never misses an opportunity to [continue reading...]

above the clouds

Sometimes I sit here, feel life go by and think that it takes some fine balance to be authentic and in touch with who we really are and then putting on a facade and behaving in a way as to keep a daily job and make a living…  Sometimes it’s just so dang exhausting. What a [continue reading...]

why always angry and unhappy

Anger is a symptom. It’s a symptom that one of your systems is overheated. If you are always angry over things, it could be a signal that you are operating under a very high level of frustration. Your brain’s amygdala (center of all emotions) may be overstimulated from daily stress or emotional trauma in the [continue reading...]