“Everything one encounters is preconsciously screened and classified as either good or bad, within a fraction of a second after encountering it.” ~John Bargh
Have you ever had that “gut” reaction to someone when meeting them for the first time? You know… that instant “I like you or I hate you” one. Some people call it “intuition.” It is “that” which directs you to either gravitate toward someone or move away the second you lay your eyes on them. For example, perhaps you met someone who is absolutely gorgeous, but it just seems that your interest in them begins and ends with their looks? How about the person who is average or below-average when it comes to physical appearance, yet they have that “thing” about them… You can’t put your finger on it, but you just can’t resist wanting to get to know them better. What is it about some people – that they have this uncanny ability to attract people to them with a magnetic personality?
There is a factor that a majority of the population is unaware of. This “X factor” will determine, to the tune of over ninety percent in frequency, whether or not we will Read the full article →
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Are you a teen and live in the West? Then welcome to the new world. Even though no one is currently invading your country, there has been no generation before you that has been exposed to as much anger, violence, and bitterness as you. This stuff is in the movies, on the radio, in your school and on the news every blooming day. You are being sold that anger is cool, normal, even a tool to get what you want in life. I bet you have friends that are on antidepressants, sedatives and been diagnosed will all sorts of exotic conditions. Do you ever wonder why?
I have a clue - values. That is the lack of them. When I say values I don’t mean morals or conduct, I mean wisdom to discriminate between things that bring either true happiness or miserable suffering. What to do? As some wise sages would say… “In order to start making the right decisions you must first stop making the wrong ones.” It can start with something simple like taking control of those angry outbursts that even a corpse would be disturbed by.
Anger Management Tips for a Wiser Teenager
1. Your brain is not your friend, yet. New findings in neuroscience suggest that the average teenager’s prefrontal cortex is not ready to take on the role of the brain CEO. That is because that part of the brain fully matures only in the late 20s. Until then your emotions Read the full article →
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Teaching a mafia boss how to control anger must be like like sticking one’s head in a lion’s mouth. Most of the times the lion will behave, and once in a while… well, the circus will need a new trainer. Besides, how do you teach someone anger management if his survival depends on his enemies fearing his wrath? Can you imagine a Ghandi like mafia boss? “Yes my children, please peacefully snap his neck, kindly put a bullet in his forehead and respectfully dispose of his body in the Hudson.” I don’t know, something just doesn’t sound right. Hollywood would most likely lose all of its profits if suddenly gangsters stopped swearing and all undertook classes in emotional intelligence. You and I would certainly skip the movies.
Anyways, this is a funny clip from “Analyze This” where Ben Sobel (Billy Crystal) helps Paul Vitti (Robert De Niro) control his anger by facing up to his feelings and seeking closure. (Caution: a great deal of “expressive” mafia language.) Read the full article →
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