Modern psychology says that being judgmental toward others is a psychological defense mechanism: we reject in others what we can’t accept in ourselves. It’s an insightful discovery but I believe it’s a short sighted one. Our inner critic has much deeper roots, those that hide way beyond the ordinary observation of the ego mind. Ever [continue reading...]
Anger Management Techniques and Tips
Welcome. This page is all about anger management techniques you can use in daily life. Read through the posts and pick out some tips and methods you feel will work for you. Most importantly, practice, practice, practice and your will improve every day. The techniques are only effective as much as you are willing to put an effort to work with your anger. Some of these tips may not suite your style. Find the ones you believe will be easiest to start with and slowly develop your skills.
Anger management is not a science. In fact, anger shouldn’t even be “managed” or “controlled.” The energy that brings about anger comes in raw form and it is our unchallenged beliefs and conditioning that converts it into anger and rage. Use these anger management techniques to subdue the fiery feelings. Ultimately, you will want to put that raw energy to better use. My hope is that once you overcome your own anger, you will help others do the same. Be patient, practice, work hard on yourself. I promise you, life will get better.
So you’re furious, I mean you’re really pissed… Now what? Come with me to the dungeon of your mind where you find yourself absolutely livid, so full of rage you’re ready to explode and take everyone with you. Basically you’re Taliban, wearing an emotional suicide vest. The Dawn of Madness In this downward vortex you [continue reading...]
Our body is a system in which all of the components are designed to work smoothly and in perfect balance with each other. The same way that one broken part can bring a car to a screeching halt, so can our bodily organs. The last article was a short introduction to our HPA Axis. Traditionally [continue reading...]
Sun Tzu, one of the greatest Chinese generals, strategists and philosophers believed that the supreme art of war was to subdue the enemy without even fighting. He said “To fight and conquer in all our battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.” Most of us would be [continue reading...]
Loving an angry person can be a daily challenge. Even worse, confronting angry people often creates an atmosphere that is hostile and distancing or punishing with aggression or cold hostility. However, you might have reached a breaking point and are ready to do a cost-benefit analysis of the consequences of your changing the rules and [continue reading...]
Anger is a symptom. It’s a symptom that one of your systems is overheated. If you are always angry over things, it could be a signal that you are operating under a very high level of frustration. Your brain’s amygdala (center of all emotions) may be overstimulated from daily stress or emotional trauma in the [continue reading...]
“Everything one encounters is preconsciously screened and classified as either good or bad, within a fraction of a second after encountering it.” ~John Bargh Have you ever had that “gut” reaction to someone when meeting them for the first time? You know… that instant “I like you or I hate you” one. Some people call it [continue reading...]
Are you a teen and live in the West? Then welcome to the new world. Even though no one is currently invading your country, there has been no generation before you that has been exposed to as much anger, violence, and bitterness as you. This stuff is in the movies, on the radio, in your [continue reading...]
Teaching a mafia boss how to control anger must be like like sticking one’s head in a lion’s mouth. Most of the times the lion will behave, and once in a while… well, the circus will need a new trainer. Besides, how do you teach someone anger management if his survival depends on his enemies [continue reading...]
Another day I had a “chat” with Arnold Schwarzenegger (Ahnuld) and asked him to share with us his timeless wisdom and one of his favorite anger management techniques. What follows is a brief advice to be taken to heart if you truly want to be a “BIG DOG”. P.S. In case you’re having some difficulties with [continue reading...]